Should You Be Setting Intimacy Goals for the New Year?

Tina Matthews
Should You Be Setting Intimacy Goals for the New Year?

New Year, New You: Exploring Self-Discovery and Pleasure

Let’s be real, when we think about New Year’s resolutions, we often focus on the usual suspects—hitting the gym, eating healthier, maybe trying to spend less time doomscrolling. But here’s a resolution you might not have considered: leveling up your intimacy game. Yep, we’re talking about prioritizing pleasure—whether you’re flying solo or sharing moments with a partner.

Why? Because intimacy is just as much about self-care and personal growth as it is about fun (though, let’s be honest, the fun part is a big bonus). The new year is the perfect time to explore what feels good, connect with your body, and even strengthen your relationships.

Why Intimacy Resolutions Matter

For starters, we all know that mental health is a big deal. Studies show that physical intimacy, including solo play, can reduce stress, improve sleep, and even boost confidence. Plus, understanding what you like and don’t like is a game-changer when it comes to connecting with others.

But let’s break this down further:

  • Solo Intimacy: Exploring your body is like learning an instrument—the more you practice, the better you get. Setting aside time for solo pleasure isn’t selfish; it’s self-care.
  • Partnered Intimacy: Whether you’re in a long-term relationship or casually dating, being intentional about intimacy can strengthen your bond and make things feel fresh and exciting.

How to Set Intimacy Goals for the New Year

Now that we’ve hyped it up, how do you actually set intimacy resolutions? Here are some practical, no-BS tips to get you started:

1. Make Time for It

Life gets busy, but intimacy (solo or partnered) shouldn’t be an afterthought. Schedule it!

  • Solo tip: Dedicate 30 minutes once or twice a week for a sensual solo session. Just you. Toys optional (but encouraged).
  • Partnered tip: Plan a “no-screens date night” where you focus on each other, not your phones.

2. Explore New Experiences

Trying new things can open doors to pleasures you didn’t know existed.

  • For Solo Play: Experiment with a new toy, like a high-tech male masturbator or prostate massager.

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  • For Partnered Play: Add a water-based lubricant to your sessions for a smoother, more connected experience.

    We recommend the Sutil Luxe, which enhances sensation without any sticky residue and makes for easy cleanup. Not to mention, water-based lubricants like this one are a great, safe choice when incorporating silicone toys into your play.

3. Learn About Yourself

Take a moment to reflect on what works for you and what doesn’t. This isn’t just about physical pleasure but understanding your preferences.

  • Journaling about your experiences can be surprisingly insightful (no one has to read it but you!).
  • Consider reading books or listening to podcasts about men’s intimacy and sexual health.

4. Communicate Like a Pro

When it comes to intimacy with a partner, honesty is everything.

  • Start with simple phrases like, “I’ve been thinking about trying this—what do you think?”
  • Be open to feedback, and remember that the goal is connection, not perfection.

Small Changes, Big Payoff

Don’t feel like you need to overhaul your entire life overnight. Even small steps can lead to big changes. Here are a few quick wins to get started:

  • Upgrade your bedside drawer. Ditch the outdated stuff and invest in quality toys or accessories. Not sure where to get started? Start simple with a masturbation cream or go high-tech with an automatic stroker.
  • Set a self-care ritual that includes pleasure—light a candle, play your favorite playlist, and make it a whole experience.
  • Talk to your partner about your resolutions and see if they want to create intimacy goals with you.

Final Thoughts: It’s About You, Not Just Them

At the end of the day, intimacy resolutions aren’t just about spicing things up in the bedroom (though that’s a nice perk). They’re about prioritizing yourself, understanding what makes you feel good, and bringing that confidence into every part of your life.

So, this year, why not make pleasure part of your self-care routine? Whether it’s trying something new, deepening your connection with a partner, or just making time for yourself, you deserve it. 

And hey, if you’re looking for the right tools to kickstart your journey, we’ve got you covered.

New year, new you. Let’s make it one to remember.

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